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  Vacations, Relaxation or Relapse?
  Most people eagerly look forward to vacation as a time of relaxation and fun. When I plan a vacation, my excitement is sometimes tempered by apprehension. For me, this comes mainly from my husband's tendency to sink into depression and anxiety when we return home. Here is some information to help you understand why vacations can be difficult for our partners and what you can do to increase the likelyhood that you and your partner can have an enjoyable vacation.

Why Are Vacations So Hard?
Vacations are stressful for anyone, but more so for our partners. The routine that helps them maintain their stability is disrupted. They are exposed to more stimulation with each new experience. For some, vacations may be a respite from their daily struggle to maintain stability. This makes it difficult to re-enter their daily routine when they return. If your spouse is not in treatment or recovery do not expect them to cope well or enjoy a vacation.

What Can I Do To Have A Good Vacation?
There are some things that you CAN do to help make your vacation enjoyable for you and your partner or family.
  • Talk About Plans In Advance. Involve your partner and other family members in the planning. Respect your partner's feelings and accept their limitations regarding the types of activities they feeling comfortable doing.

  • No Surprises. Some of us need to be sure our vacation is planned out ahead of time to avoid, as much as possible, anything that can add stress. Make reservations. Plan the route you will take. Try to make the route to your destinations as direct as possible.

  • Don't Rush. Take frequent breaks. Limit the number of miles you drive in one day to a distance that is comfortable for your partner.

  • Medication. Speak to your partner's doctor about your vacation plans and see if there is medication available that may help reduce your mate's stress.

  • Take A Mini-Vacation. Go on a day trip or plan a short, overnight trip close to home.

  • Postpone. Sometimes, if your partner is especially stressed and likely to relapse, it is better to put off your vacation until your mate is more stable.

  • Go By Yourself. If your partner cannot cope with vacations, going with a friend or family member may be an alternative to not going on a vacation at all. We all need time for rest and relaxation.
 
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